Dating with Beijing Girl for foreigners

Beijing is the capital city of China, a large, social city but now is full of modern culture and style. A lot of foreigners and international visit Beijing daily, especially visiting Great wall, Tian An Men, The Forbidden City, and The Temple of Heaven.

But for foreigners who want to know more about Beijing people especially local girls, there are some difficulties including how to talk and the culture of chinese girl.

As foreigners in Beijing, it is quite easy for us to meet and have relationships with girls. Eventually, most of these relationships will turn sexual. So on average, how many dates does it take before your girl is willing to take the 'leap of faith' into bed with you?

Of course, much of this depends on your looks, age, nationality, and financial stability. Or in other words, what girls here refer to as your 'tiao jian'(条件).

Dating with Beijing Girl Tips and Tricks

Dating Girls Beijing Tips 1 - Ask yourself what kind of man your date (or victim) wants to be with on her first date.

Dating Girls Beijing Tips 2 - Simply, be that Man that she wants!

Let me give some examples to illustrate my point.

For example, just say that this Chinese date of yours likes a man that is educated and is relatively wealthy. What should you do?

Simply, on your date night, wear a nice business suit and make sure your hair is decent and slick. She will be proud to walk with a “successful man” like you. Anyway, it doesn’t cost much to have a nice suit tailor-made in Beijing.

For most Chinese girls, it will also be best to take her out to a Western restaurant for a candle-light dinner. I don’t know why but it seems to work. I guess most Chinese girls tend to watch Hollywood movies, where candle-light dinner is THE thing for a romantic night out. This is especially so when you are a Caucasian.

What if your date is a fun-loving, sexy and love Rock Music (reminds me of my wife)? Well, try to wear something cool and bright. These girls like you to be one-of-a-kind. Cool sells!

If that’s the case, boring clothes an hairstyles will only attract boring girls. So, what do you want?

For my first real date with my then-girlfriend-now-wife, I wore a pair of Levi’s jeans, a nice leather jacket over a T-shirt with the rock band, Led Zeppelin on it.

It did the trick!

At the end of our date, I took off my T-shirt in front of her and pass it to her as a present. She is a real fan of Led Zeppelin! And I wanted to show her my muscular pecs and abs too.

She was so shy but I knew she thought it was so COOL! Who wouldn’t?

Note: This is not for every guy out there unless you had my previously well-toned body. I would not do it now, especially with my enlarging love handles.

Another important thing – Chinese girls are very observant and would notice small things. So, please snip your nostril hairs and shave before a date. Most Chinese girls like clean-shaven men compared to Indian girls who love their men with moustaches. I guess it’s a cultural thing.

Chinese girls like men who look after themselves. If you look like a poor vagrant on the first date, it will probably be your last too.

In China, “face” value is very important. If you can enhance your date’s status by being with you, you are seen as a good catch.

Some general “Dating Girls Beijing Tips” for first date include:

- Don't put too much cologne unless you smell like a skunk!

- Always take a shower before going on a date.

- Don't have bad breath. Buy some chewing gum and put them in your pocket. You’ll never know when you need them. Especially when kissing on your first date.

WARNING: Do not kiss on your first date with a Chinese girl!

Dating with Facebook Myspace girl

Facebook is a social networking community sites that is very popular nowadays. Many peoples around the world sign up on the facebook and make friends with the people they know or even they don't know. Therefore, the network amount is increasing every hour oh the site. And the good news, we can even find a girlfriend through facebook.

Today, millions of beautiful girls online are waiting for you. Just look around you: First, they are on dating websites or in online flirt communities. And here is what is even more exciting: You also literally find millions of single women on the social networks. Yes, literally millions. There are over 100 million girls on MySpace. And there are another 60 million girls on facebook, with the numbers growing each day by the ten thousands.

In the online dating world, MySpace and Facebook are as close as you can get to that. And yes, you can even find a girlfriend on Facebook, and you can find a girlfriend on MySpace as well.

But how do you approach beautiful girls on Facebook? And how do you approach attractive girls on MySpace?

Here is what most guys will think when they stumple upon a woman's profile: "She's so beautiful. She probably can get any man she wants. Why would she even want to talk to me?". And, truth be told, beautiful girls usually do have a long, impressive list of friends. And most of them get ten or twenty e-mails from strangers every day -- all of whom are trying to get to know her.

That is no surprise:

Talking to a girl online doesn't require the courage you might need to approach a woman on the street. It's safe, because you spare yourself from any embarassing situation if she rejects you. Nobody will see it. In fact, if she's not interested, she probably won't even reply at all.

And because it seems so easy, many guys will give it a shot. They figure they've got nothing to lose. And in the end, 95 percent of the messages in a woman's inbox will sound like "how are you doing?", "did you have a great weekend?" or "would you like to talk to me?".

To make a long story short, most pick up e-mails a girl receives are dead boring. And after a week on Facebook or MySpace, a cute girl will be accustomed to spot and delete such messages in an instant. For girls on Facebook, MySpace or datig sites it's just like you and I can spot and delete spam messages without even reading their content.

Here is the three simple tips and tricks to date a girl from Facebook :
1. Attention
What does attention mean? It means to stand out from the crowd. It means that you need to make her recognize that you are different. It does not mean, however, that you have to show that you are better than the other guys. Just that something about you is different. Getting her attention means to make her curious. At least curious enough to make her reply.

2. Connection
Connection means to show her that you and her have something in common. For instance, you might have the same taste in music. You might both have similar hobbies. And you might share a common sense of humor: If you can laugh together, she will enjoy talking to you. And in the end, that will lay the foundation for the third step:

3. Commitment
Commitment. That is the final stage of every flirt. At this point, she will decide that you are somebody she wants to stick around. Only now you will get her phone number, meet her in real life or get a date.

But you must emember Facebook isn't a sleazy pick up joint and you'll usually be interacting with someone who knows someone you know. While emailing and interacting with tonnes of women can increase your success rate at meeting someone there is a much easier way to have a better chance of meeting someone through Facebook.

Younger Foreign Men Have Difficulty Dating Chinese Girls

Do Younger Foreign Men Have Difficulty Dating Chinese Girls?

China is a country which has a rapid major economic growth. A lot of foreign peoples come to china to work every year. Although English Language is not a major language in that country, but recently a lot of English Teacher come to China. English Teacher from foreign country like western country, still got problems to talk and have a relationship with chinese people especially the chinese girls. Many of thems have difficulty while talking with chinese girl.

Here is one letter posted by foreing ESL Teacher in China who want to date with a local chinese girl. He found difficulty in finding college graduates girl, however the most chiense girls do not beleive in monogamous serial dating.

This is the letter and the answer to the question about problems in relationship between foreing men and chinese girls. Completely taken from the site : http://middlekingdomlife.com/wp/ask-dr-greg/do-younger-foreign-men-have-difficulty-dating-chinese-girls/

Original Question

Dear Dr. Greg

It seems many of the ESL teachers in China are a bit, not sure how to say this, older. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but one of the draws of China seems to be Chinese girls are far more open to dating older, western men than girls are in Korea, where I am currently working.

My question is what if you aren't older? I'll be working in China at the age of 24. I may look 30 but word spreads soon enough. In Korea men my age are given a certain amount of slack, they are expected to be drinking and chasing women (and seeing hookers) on a regular basis. In China, will I be held to a higher standard as a foreigner, or will I be able to "act my age?"

In addition, would it be considered wrong for a man of 24 to have a girlfriend older than him? In Korea this is very rare.

Thank you

Answer

Traditional Chinese girls and their families believe that a future husband should be older, smarter, taller, and better educated than his wife. The acceptable age difference is, generally speaking, two to four years older. As is true throughout Asia, it would be very unusual for a Chinese girl to feel comfortable dating and marrying a younger man. It happens, especially if the age difference is not greater than a year or two, but it is rare.

Chinese girls who deliberately seek much older men generally do so to compensate themselves for having had ambivalent or terribly conflictual, often aggressive, relationships with their fathers. Although this applies to many Chinese girls, perhaps most, it doesn't apply to all. In addition, the preference for older men is typically overrepresented by girls raised by poor families in the countryside and, perhaps, girls who have a history of being cheated on by younger men. The hope is that by choosing a much older man, he is less likely to grow bored with her and chase younger women as time goes by.

As a rule, highly Westernized girls born and raised in international cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, and, to a lesser extent, Guangzhou—especially if their relationships with their fathers were relatively healthy—will not prefer much older men.

At your age of 24, you shouldn't have any difficulty finding recent college graduates, 22- and 23-years of age, who feel it is time to start looking for a boyfriend (read husband). The problem you might run into in second and third tier cities is that most Chinese girls do not believe in monogamous serial dating. That is, most are definitely not looking for just "friends with benefits" or casual sex (see unit on Dating Etiquette, Sex, and Relationships in Guide). Having just written that, and especially if you will be teaching in an international city, you will find many girls who are just interested in dating in the Western sense of that word.

If I were 24 years again and interested in just dating Chinese girls and "acting my age," I'd be limiting my job search to Beijing and Shanghai only--as a way to maximize my chances of finding those type of opportunities.

Best of luck to you.

Dating with Singapore Chinese Girls Tips

Singapore is the richest country in South East Asia, and so do the people. Chinese Ethnic is the most biggest ethnic and population in Singapore. With their major economy growth and fast busy work hour, many singapore men and women are hard worker person. Most of them don't have enough time to make love and find romance dating.

Singapore Girls are famous for their elegant, chic, fashionable and stylish modern woman. Singapore Girls or we can say Chinese Singapore Girls are beautiful, smooth skin, in trendy clothes, amd fashion sense. Don't suprised if you find Singapore girls wear tank top or hug kiss each others in public road in the afternoon.

Singapore Girls are still valuable to make date with. But there are some tips and tricks before we melt Singapore Chinese Girl's heart. Follow this tricks, taken from other blogs found on the web (kennysia)

1. Singaporean girls have fantastic fashion sense
The MNG, the m}phosis, even the This Fashion (or was it That Fashion? heh heh) all deserve a medal for sprucing up Singaporean girls with something nice to wear and giving the guys something nice to look at at the same time. :)

2. Singaporean girls have a good sense of humour

Two girls I know in Perth (Candice and Rekha) are perfect examples of this. Actually I reckon Singaporeans in general have a good sense of humour. They know the difference between a sarcastic insult and a sarcastic joke, and they know when to take things seriously and when to have light-hearted fun. I don't have to worry as much about offending someone when I joke.

3. Singaporean girls are more open about their sexuality
This one you can see for yourself in their blogs. Singaporean girls have no hesitation talking about sex in the same blog where they put their photos and real name, wheras Malaysian girls feel the need to hide behind an anonymous pseudonym before they can write anything about sex. Why ar? Social stigma lah.

4. Singaporean girls are capable of forming their own opinion

Despite my parents' insistence, I have absolute zero interest in quiet docile women who looks sweet on the outside, but hollow on the inside. I don't like girls who follow exactly what I said to the dot and keep quiet if I did something wrong that they don't like. I don't wanna date a maid who accepts everything I ask of them. I want girls who have brains and can think for themselves, not a doormat. Singaporean girls know what they want, and they say what they want. It makes the relationship more 'human', and that I admire.

5. Singaporean girls know how to party

I went to Zouk once and I was amazed to see the girls there doing the Para-Para, the Teppanyaki, or whatever dance you call it. I tried to dance but end up looking like I was jogging on the spot. Maybe dating a Singaporean girl could turn me into a Michael Flatley.

6. Singaporean girls are health conscious
Nowadays its all low fat, low carb, low everything. Can save money on dinner 'cos she'll just be drinking a glass of water.

7. Singaporean girls are more financially independant

Salary in Singapore is better and the exchange rate to Ringgit is pretty good at the moment. Money is never enough. Then again, having a lot of money is one thing. Unfortunately, knowing how to spell the word "BUDGET" is another thing.

Secret dating and talking to chinese girl

Chinese girls are  shy person. There are not really effective strategy to convince a Chinese or Asian girl to be my Girlfriend, what do they like and how and where do I start from. If you are an Asian lady Peharps you can know that point.

The secret behind getting a chinese girl is being nice to her, spend more time with her because 99% of chinese girls are shy. When she really know you more and find out that she likes knowing you. When u ask her out then she will consider you.But it is very difficult to get a chinese girl friend because most of them are already ingaged. That is from my own point of view

Knowing about their culture is not really a requirement. They will have more fun trying to teach you their culture. And replying back to them that you still don't understand. Then seeing their cute frustrasted looks moaning "Fan se le!"..

Maybe i can offer some tips for ya.Chinese girls are a bit less open minded than girls from other countries especially america.Some of them are pretty open minded which means it depends.Just don't hide your feeling up,You speak out,You get chance,You don't,Never have a chance.Good luck man.You will get what you want eventually.

Actually ,most Chinese girls like foreign guys. You don't have to do anything special. Just be what you used to be.

Marry a chinese girl guidelines

If you want marry a Chinese girl, READ THIS:

1You scared she will use you to get citizenship.
The basic of marriage is trust. How can we live with a person always skeptic us? Besides, What¡¯s wrong you do something to the person you loved?

2 Is she faithful? Could I trust her?
It¡¯s depends on many factors: Is she traditional girl? Does she truly love you? etc
And your should pay ATTENTION to the following point:
1st, choice a woman you think she is faithful and trust her. If you want her respect you, you should respect her. If you want her faithful, you should faithful.
2nd, both of you need tell the truth, why you will be together? There is not perfect person in the world, there must be some reason bring you together, such as: your are bald ugly guy, she is over 30yr, no one want marry her.
3rd, No women want to live with a loser. The rule of nature is female will choose the winner. So you should, at least, have a job.
4th, here is famous old saying in China: ¡°You can be too smart in marriage.¡± It means, you can¡¯t take marriage as business. Just be smart when you choose a girl, don¡¯t be too smart when you and she are together. Consider too much thing about money and betray and so forth won¡¯t help you. It will ruin your marriage. If you want win her true heart you need to give her your heart. No one could insure you that she won¡¯t betray you. You¡¯re adult, friend. You should be strong. She is a Chinese. Usually, she won¡¯t let you down.

3 Could you prove you are better than Chinese men?
Chinese will be together--even their wife or their husband is paralysis. They will take the responsibility to their soul mate. If your wife is paralysis, can you always company with her and take care of her without complain? I know there is a girl married an American, she earn the money to support their life. Yet the guy rude to her parents when they came to America to see her¡ªThat¡¯s very terrible! Chinese precious their parents just like God. Once that girl and her husband enjoy their vacation in Hawaii, she dead in an accident. Her husband find a cheapest funeral and interment company, deal with her worse than a dead cat. He sues the travel agency, get $2 million and soon marry an American woman. How horrible! That guy must the most heartless guy and cold blood person I¡¯ve ever seen. Chinese won¡¯t take their wife like that! ¢ÙTreat her parents rudely. ¢ÚDeal with her body as throw away a powerless battery. Funeral is one of the biggest thing to Chinese! ¢ÛMarry another woman so soon. Obviously, he used his wife! Are Chinese women slavers? Are they deserved to be treating like that?

Yes, we are traditional, faithful women. What we want just a warm family, a trusty husband, love his wife deeply. Is it so hard? Love is a very simple thing. It isn¡¯t business, politics! Love needs wisdom, patient and virtue.

Articles from : asianwind.com

How to chase chinese girl

Chinese people is very friendly. And most of Chinese girls like to talk with a foreigner if you can speak Chinese. If you said you can teach she English or other language. She will happy to be your friend. And than you can go for a travel with she. Take more care to she. Soon she will feel in love with you. So, if you want to chase a beautiful Chinese girl. Firstly,learn a littly Chinese. Start at “你好！”“你真美。”

As we know that china is a very traditional country and chinese girl are very conventional, so talking about something dare is not polite and also will scare girls away. In chinese girls mind most of foreign men are lesure about sex. I dont know whether it is right or not. but online so many white guys do scared me a lot.

Some Chinese girls are so uptight. That if you ask them out she'll probably won't even say a word and ignore you. And turn their head and their eyes looking on the side giving a the face like you ain't worth anything. But if you can chase her friend and actually get her. The first girl who was so uptight would start feeling regret like she lost her chance.

I don't like uptight conevtional girls anyway. Some of them have bad temper and get frsutrated all the time. You may think they are spoiled but its just the way that some Chinese girls are. They can go chew vinegar 吃醋 on a daily basis!

Better stick to more open friendly Chinese girls, sadly they are mostly overseas Chinese girls, but lucky some local ones are just as friendly. But sometimes you don't want them to be too friendly. Some of them start singing their Chinese oprah and OMG it can break your ears!

Articles are taken from : chinese-tools.com